So, those of you that know me, know that I am attempting to enter the dating world again (yes Adrian, I tend to be a ridiculously long serial monogamist....shoot me, I love to really get to know someone!.....and I move at the speed of a tortoise in the middle of the Mojave desert on a mid summer day.) But that being said, I have entered the dating world again at my own pace, which seems to be a bit quicker than normal.
Anyways, so, a week or two ago I went on a date with a really nice girl (at least I thought she was really nice.....I have no idea what you all think....but take my word for it, she is really nice) and it was a nice date. Went to dinner, ice cream, walked around the city, it was good.
So, naturally I was hoping to go on date two, and she was kind enough to give an ol' grump like myself another few hours of her life, which she will most likely in the future wish she had never agreed to spend with me, but that is besides the point.
Needless to say, we agreed that a date 2 would happen. Well, as you also know, my schedule is not the easiest to plan around. It seems there is always something that is demanding my full time and focus and to get away from it is not just difficult, it could lead to a loss of my license to practice law, the failure of my law firm, and the sky falling on my head.
My bright idea was as follows. She is a Mormon (yes I know shocker, I went out with a Mormon and enjoyed it), and I am a Mormon and this weekend is conference (yes it is going where you think it is going.) Seeing as she also has a schedule that doesn't always lead her to having free time all the time, and I don't always have free time, and we were both most likely going to be watching conference this weekend, which meant we both had the same type of free time, and I wanted to see her again sooner rather than later, I invited her to come down to my house and watch conference together. So, technically speaking this would be date 2, and on date 2, we would be watching conference on a Saturday afternoon. How lame am I? Did I just cross the threshold into being the lamest individual ever created? I didn't mean to be lame, and it wasn't a lack of thought, but well, it just seemed to make sense, I'm doing X, you might be doing X (I didn't really know if she was much of a conference type person), why don't we do X together?
Does that logic make sense? Obviously if there is a date 4, I might have to do better (since I asked the first 2, she has to ask for date 3 right?) This isn't a completely male chauvinistic world is it? The line chivalry is dead and women killed it rings through my head, but I'll try not to be stubborn about it.
Tell me I'm an idiot....I'm listening! (I really just want you all to tell me I'm not an idiot, but I know the 2 people that read this blog too well, and they'll think I am an idiot!)
2 comments:
On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being totally lame, or in this case, asking her to come do filing with you in your office, and 10 being totally awesome, like taking her on a private jet to Dublin to look at castle ruins with a personal chef with dinner waiting -- I'd give you a nice happy 4.5. It IS lame. But this we know. However, you don't quite have the time & resources for a 10 and, really, she probably doesn't either. That being said means both of your lives necessitate some lameness at this point and your amount of lameness is mitigated somewhat by your reasoning, which is that you would rather see her sooner rather than later. So not lame there. Just know this. Said lameness will require much more fabulousness when you have time to make time in the future.
Overall summary -- you're fine. Just don't make it a trend. Go get 'em! I mean, her.
Oh Jeff, I WOULD shoot you, only you clearly are not THE slowest dater in the world since: first, you are already planning date four, and second, you have likened yourself to a turtle in a warm environment and we all know that turtles are reptiles, thus their metabolisms are directly linked to their temperature. Wo be to the girl who dates a man as slow as a turtle in the Antarctic. :D
But anyway. I think that under the circumstances this is definitely NOT lame. If it became a pattern that either of you would or really could never actually set aside time especially for one another, that would be a problem.
Too bad I didn't read this when it would have been a more relevant comment since I'm pretty sure you are past date four by now. ;)
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